The Google Bar In Your Mind - What Are You Searching For?
“Am I stopping myself from getting what I want?”
I’ve had several conversations recently about negative thoughts and the impact they have on your life and experiences. One client was saying how much she was worrying about not thinking positively the whole time and that that would mean she was ruining all her plans.
There is so much on social media about thinking positively and getting out there. These perfect lives and achievements that seem to come so easily to everyone else..
Some days, this can feel annoying and demoralising.
The reality is that you are human and you will have bad days and negative thoughts. And this is ok.
It is true that you get what you focus on. You may have experienced that working. Maybe you have had a conversation about butterflies and suddenly you see them everywhere. Is this a coincidence? Or were they there already, but now you’re thinking about them you’re more likely to see them?
Whichever way around it is, you will notice the things you put your attention on.
The old glass half empty/half full saying is the same. Two people going through the same experience might describe it very differently:
One person might wonder: “Why does this always happen to me?!” and another: “Well, that could have been worse!”
It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you feel about it and how you respond to it that matters. Are you going to let problems rule your life or are you going to find a solution and get on with your day?
Of course, it’s not always that simple but when your default setting is “things are working out for me” rather than “things are working against me”, you are going to feel a lot more in control and you won’t get taken out by the day to day frustrations that can occur.
So where does Google come in to all this?
The thoughts you think are the equivalent of what you type into Google - basically, you get what you search for.
If you’re looking for flights to Italy, you are not going to type in ‘boat trips to Spain’.
It’s the same with your mind and your thoughts. If you ask your mind “Why am I so rubbish at this?” it will give you a list of things you’ve done wrong and are rubbish at.
If you think to yourself “Why am I so good at this?” you will be reminded of your successes and moments that went well.
A belief is a thought that you keep thinking.
And that thought is probably not true.
If you are telling yourself over and over again that “I’m no good at maths” or “I never remember anyone’s names”, what do you think will happen!
Ask your friends what your stock phrases are and notice if they are things that you want to believe or not.
When you start noticing and changing your thoughts into something more positive and supportive, you will be amazed at what you notice. EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or Tapping is a great way to change these thoughts and beliefs easily and painlessly.
If you would like to know more, I would love to hear from you. Drop me an email, or leave a comment below. I work over the phone as well as face to face and would love to help you find and clear the thoughts that hold you back and choose good ones that help you feel great!
I’m also really excited to launch the Belief Buster Course on the Stress Free Life Membership Site on the 1st February 2019. You can join at anytime and get instant access to videos, audios, courses and downloads as well as support and discounts.