When I’ve introduced people to EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), their first question is often: “Does it help with…..“ fill in the blank: phobias/pain/anxiety/my sister’s stress/my daughter’s anxiety/whatever it is that they are experiencing” The short is answer is: ‘Yes’. EFT can help with everything and anything because whatever you are going through, you will be having an emotional response to it, and that is where you start. EFT is based on the concept that the emotion is felt, acknowledged and released.
I was on my Counselling Skills Course when I first learned about mind traps. It was one of those amazing light bulb moments where everything changes. I wish I had been taught them at school!
What is a Mind Trap?
A mind trap is a way of thinking. The subconscious works in repeating patterns and learns ways of thinking and behaving from other people and past experiences. Some of these are well established and have names and processes that I am going to share with you in this blog.
I’ve had several conversations recently about negative thoughts and the impact they have on your life and experiences. One client was saying how much she was worrying about not thinking positively the whole time and that that would mean she was ruining all her plans.
There is so much on social media about thinking positively and getting out there. These perfect lives and achievements that seem to come so easily to everyone else..
“Don’t sweat the small stuff” sings Dolly Parton (I’m a big fan). And, as with many of her lyrics, she’s spot on.
Life can be a series of challenging moments. For some there is drama after drama, a seeming unending list of things to deal with. Others seem to sail through life, feathers unruffled, successful and happy.
Anxiety can be totally overwhelming and sometimes it can feel like you will never be able to get it under control.
I believe that there is always another way...
If you are 100% anxious and you can reduce that to 99%, then you can keep going until it’s reduced as far as you can. You might not shift all your anxiety in one go, but you can make steps towards feeling more relaxed and calm.
Have you noticed that sometimes you can be a different person in certain situations or with different people? Some friends you might laugh with continually, others you could have deep, meaningful conversations about the purpose of life. Other people can rub you up the wrong way for no apparent reason - they trigger you just by being in the same room as you!
Is it actually possible to have a completely stress free life?
Well, probably not! Life happens, events unfold and people will be people. Stress is a vital part of growth and learning - humans are much more motivated to move away from pain/danger than towards love or happiness.
I am so excited to launch my new monthly tapping groups in London and Chichester this summer! With so much going on in the world, it’s important to create calm and relief for yourself and a tapping group could be just the thing you need.